God’s Way Education: Family Experiment Specialised Home stay

***This post was updated on the 2nd September 2017, to be more transparent about some of the emotional dynamics being played out within the family

Introduction

The following post includes a breakdown of the family experiment we undertook over a month, the purpose, aims and some benefits. It explains the who, what, where, when and why, some of our findings, personal feedback and participant reflections, followed by possibilities for the experiment and where we are headed now with the God’s Way of Education Programme and follow up experiments.


In June Jesus & Mary made an interesting suggestion about a “family experiment” for the God’s Way of Education Project.

The purpose of the experiment is for the adults in the family to become more aware of the unloving family dynamics between themselves and how this impacts their intimate relationship and relationship with the children. Part of the purpose was to document the entire experiment, including the process, events, feelings and experiences for each person involved for God’s Way of Education Project.

After some consideration and clarification (because initially we didn’t fully understand the implications, principles or what the project actually involved) Tristan, Pete & I, plus by default the kids, decided to go ahead and engage the experiment.

Pete and I felt somewhat nervous as we were warned it would be challenging, but the desire to engage the opportunity was greater and away we went.


Following is a breakdown of what occurred

Purpose, Aims & Benefits:

  • Feeling the reality of where our family is at right now
  • Recognising where we are out of harmony with God’s Laws
  • Recognising sin we are currently resistive to seeing & feeling
  • Becoming aware of the real issues rather than remaining “blind” to them
  • Challenging addictions and co-dependence in relationships
  • Recognising that there is a problem in what we have been defining as “normal” within the family
  • Becoming happier, more truthful and loving people
  • Gaining an education on what truly loving interactions between intimate partners feels like from God’s perspective
  • Gaining an education on what truly loving relationships between children and parents feels like from God’s perspective
  • Recognising emotions and encouraging and allowing personal emotional experience
  • Making time for emotions. Making emotional expression the number one priority for personal change to occur
  • Gaining an education and training in how to conduct and partake in emotional experiments
  • Sharing the experiment with others who may be interested
  • Because there was desire and motivation for the idea and we wanted to give it a go, we also felt it would be a good experience for the God’s Way Education Project

Who:

Mentors: Jesus & Mary

Educator: Tristan

Participants: A family of 2 adults and 3 children (Eloisa, Pete & kids) 

When:

The experiment began on the 17th of July and went till 14th of August 2017

Where:

Pete and Eloisa’s homes, Queensland Australia

What:

Specialised Home stay Experiment (Tris has come up with the idea of a specialised and general home stay, the specialised is defined below).

Specialised home stay: is for families where one parent is being consistently unloving in their intentions, attitudes, and actions to another the Educator conducts a specialised home stay to remedy this problem first.

Pete is currently treating Eloisa in an emotionally abusive, manipulative manner. This is the first issue that needs to be resolved as it will expose emotions in both parties that need to be worked through. The aim of the experiment is for both parties to see this dynamic and to work through the issues that allow it to continue.

The aim is to do this so that Eloisa and Peter can be together and have an equal relationship based on love and truth. We suspect their whole relationship is going to need to be deconstructed and built again.

Quote from Tristan’s blog that can be found at the following location: LINK

The Educator is to live day-to-day with a family for a month.

Over a month the Educator is to notice all unloving, unethical or immoral behaviours or intentions being engaged by anyone in the family. Each time the educator is to stop the family and tell them that they can no longer engage with each other until they sincerely and emotionally work out why they were stopped, what would be the loving thing to do, and then act on that loving behaviour.

If one family member was historically treated badly by the rest of the family members then the rules would be when that person is treated badly next then they would leave to go live in a neutral and comfortable location. Then the rest of the family works out how they had been unloving to that person and come to a sincere and emotional understanding of what would be the loving thing to do. When they have, then the first family member can come back and interact with the rest of the family. In the most resistive cases, this may take a large portion of the allotted experiment time.

All parties to write up journals or logs

Educator to write up parent report at the end of the month detailing the biggest issues and some ideas on what to do next.

Educator to then write up a procedure for others who might want to conduct or have their families be a part of a similar experiment.

This experiment will be a tool Educator may use for engaging with families that want to be a part of any “God’s Way” school in the future.

Why:

For many reasons, below are just a few

  • The lack of desire to love and resistance to change in one party is causing pain and suffering to others
  • The current dynamic is destroying the relationship
  • To highlight issues in the family culture that the adults/parents in the family are currently not recognising, or desiring to overlook due to addictive reasons.
  • Parents to recognise how their addictions, emotional injuries and belief systems impact the family dynamic, and how they have the ability to change the family culture.
  • Parents to recognise they initially created the causes of what the children are reflecting and acting out. They encouraged and allowed unloving addictions, demands and expectations and it is the parents responsibility to re-educate children based on love (once the parents are educated and uphold love this becomes far easier to do.)

Note: if emotional process is engaged by parents and then love and truth is upheld in the family environment it is very easy for children to change.

As Tris says:

The fact is parents and guardians are the most invested in how the family currently interacts. They are the main reason why their children enact unloving behaviours and intentions both in the home and out. However most, if not all, parents are unable to see this truth.

Often a parent is trying to correct a child’s behaviour when they themselves have taught them that behaviour through personal agreement with it (but only when it’s the parent doing it) or through encouragement [and or allowance] of that behaviour towards the parents. Either way the child will be unable to make emotional changes if the parents don’t.

I have seen children being completely unaware of their unloving intentions exactly as their parents with their own intentions.

This experiment brings in someone who is not in agreement of the family “status-quo” and highlights constantly the problems as they occur.

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Findings

(This is not an exhaustive list)

  • The experiment was almost terminated due to Pete refusing feel certain emotions that were exposed. He then chose to treat Tristan badly as well as Eloisa. Pete’s resistance to seeing what he is truly doing is an impediment to change in the family
  • Pete and Eloisa spent very little time together during the month as each time they were together there was an issue of love that caused Eloisa to have to leave. They are still spending limited time together as the issues are yet to be resolved
  • Pete has not been honest with how he actually feels and desires to remain in his facade more than actually being truthful about what is going on. This is still currently the case
  • Eloisa’s desire to avoid feeling terror was exposed and reflected in not wanting to uphold love and truth under all circumstances no matter what
  • Eloisa’s allowance of bad treatment of herself was highlighted and her addiction to placate angry people was demonstrated
  • Facing up to the reality and truth of what is currently going on in their relationship and with the children was confronting and challenging for both Pete and Eloisa
  • When we don’t desire to love and rather desire our addictions and facade above all else it can get emotionally nasty
  • Emotional abuse and manipulation is very damaging and destroys relationships
  • Harming others is a choice not because of anything that has happened to us in the past but because we choose to do it
  • Taking loving, truthful action in the moment brings up emotion rapidly
  • Allowing emotion to flow every time it comes up takes time, personal effort and desire
  • Self reflection and giving time to feeling emotions needs to become a way of life rather than something one does now and then
  • Being transparent, honouring truth and love brings consistency, safety and security into a family. Doing the opposite causes pain and reinforces emotional error
  • This experiment highlighted that the issues between Pete and Eloisa (parents) are the cause for the issues currently being played out between the children and being reflected in the children’s behaviour. For example there were times when the children played out the manipulative and emotionally abusive behaviour towards each other in the exact same manner it plays out between Pete and Eloisa

Findings cont…

  • Parents are responsible for the loving authority in a household
  • It is the parents’ responsibility to uphold love and truth in a family
  • One party upholding a loving space can create change in a family. Both parents upholding a loving space and working towards a common goal I imagine would create more change faster (we have yet to experience this)
  • No real or lasting positive change occurs in a family unless parent/s release emotions in themselves that create and or contribute to the current family dynamic
  • If there are issues in parents intimate relationship parents will most likely create co-dependant addictions with the children
  • Parents desire to not feel emotions causes damage, pain & suffering to selves and others
  • Parents desire to avoid feeling emotions prevents children expressing their emotions
  • Parents prefer to blame children than take personal responsibility
  • Parents are often hypocritical with the desire to change children but not change themselves
  • If abuse between parents (emotional, physical, sexual, any type) is happening in a household and one party actively agrees with it and the other allows it this teaches children a number of things, 1. That abuse is okay and they can do the same, and/or 2. That it is okay to be abused and they remain open to being abused, 3. Oscillate between both of the previous points. There might be other things, this is simplified version of what is happening in our family currently.
  • Parent emotional addictions cause children to be mis-educated about love and truth
  • When parents have addictions they actively encourage or allow addictions in children
  • Inter-generational family false beliefs that have not been emotionally released, emotional resistance, and holding onto emotions that not in harmony with love cause harm to children, including emotional pain and suffering, “accidents” and disease
  • Children reflect and respond to the environment they are brought up in
  • Children quickly respond to positive changes in environment if they are allowed to release emotions
  • Children reflect relationship dynamics between parents
  • Children become desensitised to their conscience (the inbuilt mechanism God created in the soul to share Truth with His children)
  • When the family environment encourages sin and addiction, this means children are encouraged to sin and be addictive. Children often believe that the family dynamic is “right” and “normal” which is very damaging when it is not based on God’s Way

**Link to Tristan’s update on this project

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LC early morning discovery – flowers

 

Reflections from participants (Eloisa’s) perspective

I was challenged many times (still am). I found the experiment really tough at times and have yet to go through the emotions that have been exposed in me.  I feel confronted owning up to the reality and interplay between myself and Pete and even in this post I initially made out it was better than what it is.

The reality of where Pete’s and my relationship is at and our current family culture and family dynamic sucks and I am not enjoying it.

Coming to terms with the reality of where our relationship is at is emotionally confronting. I lack humility to the emotional confrontation. Accepting that Pete and I are currently in a co-dependant emotionally abusive relationship and actually becoming aware of how this affects our soul and what it feels like doesn’t feel very nice.

The experiment highlighted many areas where I have wanted to avoid confrontation and doing what I know to be loving and true just to avoid certain emotions I find challenging to feel.

I am aware that the issues that I am opening up to are not new, they began in my childhood with my parents, I notice I have resistance to feeling the grief and terror of my childhood experience.

I don’t always remain loving and firm (sometimes I just feel angry and want it all to end and someone else do the loving thing). Those times do pass.

Addictions, lack of ethical behaviour in myself and Pete were pointed out and my desire to allow unloving behaviour and not stand up and honour love and truth when anger and violence is threatened was exposed.

For me the quality of courage needs to be developed and some ‘backbone’ grown so I am the person who stands up and takes the loving action in all situations.

The truth is that both parties in a relationship have issues of love to work through and both parties are responsible for changing in a loving direction.

Actually loving someone, truly, as they are, is not something I have sincerely engaged before. (I am learning that putting up with unloving behaviour is not loving them or yourself)

Upholding God’s Truth, maintaining a loving, truthful space even if that means leaving for a period of time and then returning and re-engaging is a whole new way of relating.

I recognised dynamics that previously I had skipped over, such as how desperately I want others to change and do the loving thing so I don’t have to feel my sadness. How I desire to talk my way out of situations I feel uncomfortable in as a way of avoiding feeling my emotions and placating angry people and how futile this is as nothing changes.

Experiencing taking action in the moment an issue occurs and having it enforced rapidly brought up emotion (such as physically leaving a situation rather than remaining to placate anger actually brought up the emotion as soon as I left. I had never just left before.)

I have found emotions need time. It is one thing to have something pointed out to me, another to actually investigate, discover and feel the real feeling. It took time of just being with myself and feeling whatever it is that I felt.

Having truthful conversations about what I really truly feel brings up emotions. The main issue is being humble or not when the emotions come up. If yes good things happen. If no it usually ends up feeling painful and in a fight.

I recognise things that previously I was choosing to remain ignorant of. Having the gift of issues being pointed out in the moment was invaluable, and I feel this is what helped me recognise things I had previously skipped over.

This experiment is challenging and it will turn everything upside down if you choose to engage it. Your relationship and family life will never be the same. I don’t know how it is going to end up personally as I am still engaging the experiment.

The experiment (it is still going for me) is helping me in growing faith and trust in God’s Process.

Though my relationship feels terrible and all kinds of emotional stuff is now exposed, I actually feel better in myself if I address the truth of the situation. I still like Pete, (I don’t like how he treats me ) and want to work out what is happening in our relationship.

I have growing faith that one day Pete and I  (if we are soulmates) may actually be happy and totally into each other in a truly loving relationship if I just keep doing everything I can to live The Way to God.

I also realise that if one or both of us choose not to work through our stuff that we may not be together for some time. So I need to work through all my addictive needs so I can truly love.

I would definitely do another home stay if the opportunity is given.

 

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LC early morning discovery – thistle


 

Tris gave Pete and I some feedback that I have included below. It is specific to Pete and my relationship dynamic but I felt it might be useful for others

Feedback to Eloisa

  • Focus on what you feel from another, over what they are telling you
  • Focus on being strong about “no more unloving interactions towards myself or others”, not angry but relentless in standing up for what is loving and truthful
  • Focus on “drawing the line in the sand” in regards to unloving behaviour of every kind in the family
  • Be truthful as soon as possible about the intentions you feel
  • After you have been truthful be aware of the other person’s subsequent intentions. Not what they are telling you are their intentions
  • Prepare consequences for unloving behaviour, enact these consequences after giving them the (brief) chance to change (this was in regards to repeated issues of love that have been raised many times)
  • (Optional) Record the unloving behaviour, the consequences and the behaviour you are looking for to be able to rescind the consequences (this is very helpful particularly if you are open to being manipulated easily)
  • Do not go back on these consequences until the emotional desire for behaviour has ceased or you have learned you have been unloving in this interaction from God’s perspective
  • With adults, you may decide that consequences stay enacted until the desire for the unloving behaviour has ceased permanently, with a sincere and complete show of remorse.
  • When you feel your strength slipping understand that someone somewhere is definitely trying to undermine you; this may be family, others or spirits (this is a personal thing that I recognise happening and Tris kindly helped me see it so I can use it as a tool to change what I am currently doing)

 

Feedback to Pete

  • Focus on what love would do above all other concerns. That includes your worries over what partner is/going to say, do or feel
  • Be brutally self-analytical. If you do not have an airtight understanding of your intentions as “what love would do”, then all interaction should cease in favour for self-analysis
  • Understand that your relationship with resistance is compulsive and as soon as you wish to resist you need to be brutally self-analytical
  • Understand no one else is responsible for how you feel or how you have acted

Possibilities

  • World wide change in a positive direction in how children are currently treated
  • World wide change in a positive direction in regards to same gender or inter-gender relationships
  • World wide change in a positive direction on what a loving partner relationship truly is
  • World wide change in a positive direction on what parenting truly is
  • I feel this experiment has so much potential for all families
  • Parents can see where they are at, where they are out of harmony with love, what is truly going on from God’s perspective and once you can see this you have the ability to change
  • An opportunity to gain insight and perspective to what is really happening
  • Education on how to be more truthful, loving, self responsible individuals, beginning with the parents upholding a loving family environment
  • If a loving, truthful environment is upheld there is far more opportunity and possibility for the family culture to completely change in a loving direction.
  • Positive change can be engaged by one or both parents.
  • I feel both parties changing in a positive direction would be the most beneficial, but even for one parent to make sincere soul based change, or just to see what is truly happening in the family dynamic and begin to stand up for what is loving, truthful, ethical and moral will create positive change for themselves and anyone else in their environment. (As long as they uphold the love and truth they have learned).

Thank You

I feel much gratitude for having friends who truly love and encourage Pete and I to become better people who honour love and truth above all else.

Thank you to Tristan for spending a month with us, holding a space of love and having a true acceptance of emotional experience even under attack. It was so helpful to see this in action, understanding what and why things are happening in the moment.

Thank you to Jesus and Mary for the suggestion of the experiment, mentoring, encouragement and explaining and sharing Truth with us. Your example and understanding why and what is really going on is extremely helpful.


Where to now

The God’s Way of Education Project is undergoing some modifications.

Having engaged the family experiment Tris realised, and I agree that until the parents make some shifts there is only so much that can happen in educating children.

So Tris is still creating the children’s education programme but the physical lessons are changing with the focus being on parent education. When Tris is ready we will be engaging the Love Education programme as a trial and opportunity to create and write up the Adult Education Programme.

We have realised that without the parents working through emotional issues no change happens for kids and so the Education Project needs to focus on creating a Parent or adult programme simultaneously or before engaging kids.

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Following the completion of the official family experiment I decided to continue from where we left off with Pete, plus begin a new experiment involving having the kids on my own for a month.

The purpose was to discover what addictions I have created in the children and how I am allowing and enabling those addictions, and stop doing so.

I also aimed to challenge the addictions in the children simultaneously.

That is another blog in itself,  link can be found here.

Until next time,

Eloisa

Self Reflective Parenting – Part 2:

Sourced from personal Notes dated 20140617

A snippet of what I found out personally about how I feel about ‘parenting’ and some of my experiences and discoveries during that process…

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My life now in comparison to five years ago is different in a few areas, especially in regards to children. I am happier, less tired, have actually experienced joy. I am able to do things I want to do at times. I enjoy hanging out with the kids. I want to. It doesn’t feel like such a chore. I am desiring more and more to teach them to look after themselves rather than being ‘mummy dependent’. I can hold a conversation with someone, our house is not a total mess all of the time now, the kids wash their own dishes – still needs work. They dress themselves, make their own lunches and breakfasts. We go shopping and it takes half an hour and the kids help – it used to take sometimes two hours and we were the family that everyone wanted to avoid. By owning my emotions, desiring God’s truth about me, becoming truthful with myself and how I feel and what was really going on for me, my life changed in a positive direction!

I feel it is important to find out how I truly feel about things, then I have something real to work with.

I have been ‘out of body’/’not present’/disassociated* (in order to avoid painful feelings) and told myself a lot of ‘stories’ over my life in order to avoid feeling how I really feel. The questions found in ‘Self Reflective Parenting -Part 1′ click here to take you to link,

 

  • Do I want to change? be honest

  • Do I want to love as God loves?
 If not why not?

 

I have found useful in helping me to see things I have been resistive** to feeling or even intellectually seeing. With some honest self reflection, the deeper the better, I often find out things about myself that previously I did not see.

Example: For a long time I had a whole ‘façade’*** view of parenting which I spouted out about, with comments about how amazing children are and parenting is. How great my mum and dad had been to me. What an awesome childhood I had. How ‘natural’ motherhood was, how amazing being pregnant was. Along with peoples’ perceptions of me: ‘You’ll make such a great mum Eloisa’, ‘you’ll be so fun’, ‘I wish I was your child…’etc. Wow did I want to believe them because inside I felt completely different.

I had a lot of feelings that felt terrible inside of me, that I actually was aware of but didn’t say when people said these things, like: ‘You have no idea what I am like on the inside”, ‘I feel so terrified of harming people and I am afraid of harming a baby’, ‘I feel helpless when a child cries and will do anything to try and make them okay’, ‘I feel totally inadequate and unprepared to be a parent. ’‘How am I going to cope’. ‘what if it doesn’t come naturally?’ ‘how am I going to protect a child?’, ‘What if a child dies?’ What if I do it wrong? ’What if…’, ‘What if…’, ‘What if…?’ I often felt ‘I need my mum’.


I had so many fears and terrors which ruled me when I was honest with myself, but I skipped over them, didn’t mention them, pushed them aside, minimized them and if I did ever say them allowed others dismissed them quickly and I felt that maybe I was just being ‘silly’. No-one else seemed as worried and terrified as I was so what was my problem?

When I got real with myself and admitted how I really felt it felt pretty confronting & yucky:

  • I wanted children so that I feel loved, I want them to love me. 

  • I want to control them and boss them and make them ‘perfect’ so my mum and dad will 
think how wonderful I am 

  • I haven’t felt I’ve been very good at anything in my life, like my siblings, so maybe I can 
be a good mum (though inside I already felt terrible and like this would never be. My mum has feelings SHE is the ‘best mum in all the world’ and that had been drummed into me – so how could I ever be better than the ‘best’ I didn’t have a chance. I thought ‘maybe I could be okay and at least get her approval.’ 

  • I felt totally abandoned and like I was nothing when our babies were born as everyone gave the children attention and demanded love from the baby and I no longer felt I mattered. I had gotten so much attention for just being pregnant and it was lovely for one who felt so terrible about herself – an addiction. 

  • I didn’t find motherhood ‘natural’, I didn’t feel like I was natural at nurturing and I didn’t trust my own feelings, I wanted my mother’s/women’s approval something chronic. I did what I thought mum/women would approve of. This was terrible for both the babies and myself because I went against my own feelings and I harmed our children emotionally in the process doing things I didn’t feel were right but which got me approval from mum, mother in law, step – mum and dad to a certain degree. 


What I feel and wish I had done, wish I had known about in caring for a tiny child, is to let them cry but don’t punish them, they are expressing the sadness and grief and unhealed emotions, anger, shame all sorts that their parents are suppressing & denying and the general environment around them is suppressing. I encourage you to Love children as God loves**** and feel your own pain for yourself, by yourself & with God in a self responsible manner*****. Your pain is your pain & your responsibility, not your child’s responsibility. I wanted someone else to feel my pain for me. So it fell on our children to do so through my demand and lack of ethics & lack of personal responsibility.

If I had not been so self absorbed and I had wanted to Love for real, I could have felt my own stuff rather than avoiding it and forcing it onto the children and my environment. I was in denial, projecting – gushing – my emotions outwards at the world and everyone in it. I didn’t want to know myself and I wanted others to take away my pain or feel it for me. I can see now, this is very damaging to children, partner, and those around me.

I suggest to feel about how you feel when your child/ren is distressed, angry, scared, just feeling or being emotional. Instead of trying to ‘calm them down’, pacify them with food or entertainment (which will create addictions in the end), Allow them to feel how they feel. Allow yourself to feel how you feel, allow yourself to really feel the feelings you have about what is going on and have the courage to feel what the emotional causes are without blaming the children or others.

When you are owning and feeling your emotions and they are the real thing you truly feel in that moment, that is the time that you are doing the least amount of damage to children and other souls. I noticed when I hit on the true emotion our children would stop acting up/out, stop demanding etc and completely change from ‘out of control’ while I was in denial or ‘out of body’, to quietly and contentedly playing when I was owning my emotions. It was incredible to experience.

Children are such a gift******. When we understand what is really going on, you understand just what an amazing gift they really are, because you can see ‘oh, here I am refusing to feel how I feel again’, Or ‘something is going on for me or my partner or both of us because our children are reflecting back to us disharmony of some kind. Lets find out what that is’. You have an immediate feedback system that is obvious and undeniable.

After a time when I had realized some of my own individual issues and the children were less influenced when I was on my own, I noticed that whenever Pete and I would be together things ‘ramped up’ or got more intense. We realized over some time that when Pete and I were together there was a lot of feelings we were in denial about between each other and because we were not willing to feel them the children reflected them to us, where as when we were on our own the dynamic was different.

I encourage you to stop blame children, see that anything that is happening in your life is an opportunity for YOU to learn about love. Anything that is going on for the children in your life is as an opportunity for YOU to learn something about yourself and refine yourself in Love from God’s perspective.

Contrary to popular belief ‘being strong’ is actually a place where you are self responsibly 100% emotional.

If I had my time again I would hope I would let the children express their emotions freely, particularly if they are fed, changed and have had their physical needs taken care of. I would take the time to just sit nearby, so they know I am near and work out what was going on for me, allow myself to feel my distress, my helplessness, the overwhelming feelings that are exposed and grow the passionate desire to feel all the things I felt as I felt them. Having children is an opportunity to learn so many things, including humility and how to truly love as God loves us. This takes us growing a passionate desire to love, and to know what is really going on from God’s perspective rather than our own, consistency, personal honesty, humility, taking action in a positive direction and faith in the process God has perfectly designed. All these qualities you can develop if you so desire.

Self reflection questions to let yourself feel about:
 Parenting and children 

Be honest with yourself about how you really feel and why you had children.

Everything you are suppressing will be reflected to you by children & the environment, children are perfect reflectors

  • How do I truly feel about being a parent? (all aspects)
  • How do I truly feel about children? (all aspects)
  • In regards to the Law of attraction, children’s behaviour etc, ask:
  • What is my part in this?
  • Am I being impacted by this behaviour? If I am then there is something for me to look at 
and to heal from Love’s perspective
  • How did God intend parenting/child rearing and childhood and children to be? (check out the 
FAQ’s of Jesus and Mary) I don’t know this myself for certain yet, so can’t speak from experience, but you can find out from the following sources
  • Divine Truth Website: divinetruth.com 

  • Divine Truth FAQ’s: 
  • Divine Truth YouTube Channel

 

  • Often we allow kids to get away with a lot more than we would let ourselves or other adults get away with behaving in the same way ( look at why & your beliefs around this)
. OR We often treat children much more harshly than we do ourselves or other adults or a combination of both or different subjects.
  • Example: We think it’s totally okay to assault children when we’d never do that to an adult. Smacking a child, hitting them, aggressively and angrily yelling at them etc and we justify it as ‘discipline’. This is far out of harmony with God’s love and how God treats us. 
Violence towards anyone is violence and it is unkind, hurtful and comes from a desire in yourself to harm others rather than feel your own pain.

I suggest feeling your own pain as it comes up and as you feel it. When we put things off they just get bigger and worse. God made us to feel and we are perfectly equipped to do so. We may not have the confidence or desire in ourselves and if this is the case we need to grow the aspiration to do so if we are really going to love.

 


*’Out of Body’: I label it this because this is what it feels like. It feels like your body is walking around doing things and you am not there, not present, not feeling or really aware of what is really happening around you. It feels like I have vacated and ‘gone’, or watching a ‘movie’ of your life rather than living and participating in it. Sometimes I couldn’t remember how I got to places, I had total blanks where I just was not there.. That is what it feels for those around you also. They can’t feel you anymore and they are not sure where you are. For children this is very unsettling and scary because they can’t feel you. I had experiences where the children would cling to other women’s legs when I was out of body because they couldn’t feel me anymore.

** Resistive: this is a feeling of resistance to what is going on. It feels exactly like that, pushing against something. It is a refusal to feel something and can be an angry feeling, a fear based feeling but generally has some anger to it because it is a refusal to feel. Sometimes emotional resistance is so strong it feels solid. It is immovable. It feels like: – imagine arms crossed, feet planted ‘I’m not going to and you can’t make me’ feeling. There is no surrender or softening in that place, no room to find out new things or feel the things that are there in the first place. When someone is resistive there is not much you can really do until they get out of that place.

*** Façade: something we make up for ourselves and or others to present to them because we feel that what we really feel or think or what is truly is underneath is not good enough or we fear sharing our real self, real feelings, real thoughts etc. It is like the façade on a building, it looks pretty but you get in behind it and it is totally different to what is being presented.

****(you’ll need to do some personal research on this)

*****you might need to research how to do this too- I recommend God’s Way as taught by Jesus & Mary, information can be found on their website as the only way that creates real, permanent Loving change

****** Children are always a gift and it does trouble me that we treat them so badly. I still have grief and guilt that I choose to sin rather than deal with my emotional pain personally and responsibly. Though children are perfect reflectors and can help us see so much about ourselves, it is not their responsibility to do this. IF we really loved we would be dealing with issues before others were affected by them, or if we didn’t recognize this we would definitely be doing so as soon as they were reflected to us. What I notice is that there is a tendency to ‘put things off’ and this goes often for parents who justify, minimize, dismiss, ignore or blame the child for the way they are feeling rather than just allowing themselves to be honest and feel what they feel.

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God’s Way of Education

Hi and Welcome to this exciting section of the Discovery Learning Centre Blog, the ‘Gods Way of Education Page (can be accessed from the home page on the left hand tab of this blog).

This is the place to come if you are interested in Education and Learning about Love from God’s Perspective, particularly in regards to ‘parents’*, children, teaching & education systems.

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If you are interested to know more, these are the ways to get in touch:

  1. Via the ‘contact us’ page on this website
  2. Check out the Left hand tab labelled God’s Way of Education on the left hand side of this blog
  3. Or contact Eloisa Or Tristan at: education@godsway.net

So who are ‘we’?

Presently the collaborators include:

Tristan Miller

Eloisa & Peter Lytton-Hitchins

Izabella, Charlie & Archie Lytton-Hitchins

Mentors: Jesus & Mary Magdalene

We would like to welcome Tristan as a contributor to the blog/website and let you know that he will be contributing posts from time to time here to do with his passions and desires and the projects we are collaborating on. We hope you enjoy getting to know him!

You’ll be hearing more from Tris personally soon.

We look forward to this project expanding and collaborating with more people who are passionate and desirous to be involved in the future.

What is God’s Way of Education all about?

We feel that God’s Way of Education is about how we can grow a personal relationship with God and learn directly from God about everything (it makes sense to connect to the highest source of all knowledge).

We desire to learn God’s Way of educating and replicating an education system, for adults & children, based on Principle’s of God’s truth that can be shared with the world. We would like take create programs for families and schools that currently exist, as well as implementing them in future schools & education systems (including eventually universities & higher education). It is a system based on Love (God’s version), learning the Truth about Natural Love (Humans can develop on their own) & Divine Love (God’s Love).

As you can read we have big aspirations, smile.

We have heaps to learn about how God does things rather than the world’s way. We are learning and growing ourselves so this project will reflect that and we are sure there will be many discoveries and changes as we discover more about Love & God’s Truth.

About this page, including an introduction to some of our Ideas, Aspirations & intentions: 

We will be posting information, ideas, experiments and findings on this page.

This page will be all about what we learn about how God educates us, how education takes place in the spirit world, Education itself, education of parents, children, teachers, educators, adults, and probably a whole heap more stuff that we discover or are interested in about education too.

We will be setting up a website in the future, but presently that requires us educating ourselves further in how to do that and in gathering and documenting various information and data to share with you in regards to Parents, children, education in relation to Principle’s of God’s Truth.

Due to this having never been done on Earth before there are various trial and error aspects we are encountering and we have so much to learn. It could be some months before information is shared publicly, but when we get the time and have exciting experiences and findings we sure will be sharing.

Presently we are in experiencing and experimenting mode and that takes time and efforts on our part, and due to ‘doing’ we don’t always have the time to write a blog or website entry about it. Also we don’t want to share things that are insincere and so we need to experiment and experience them for ourselves so we know for sure that what we are talking about is true and works and it not just being a ‘good idea’.

We will share our ideas from time to time and when we do, we hope to follow up with evidence, experiences and ways that you can implement the same principles to create positive change in your lives if you so desire.

We will always state if we do not know something, when it is an experiment or a trial  and when we have made a discovery that we are certain in our hearts about. These last experiences (the ones we feel God’s Truth about) I feel will be able to be replicated and so we will share the principles and process so others can try it too.

From the experiences that each of us have had over the last years we know that consistency is essential & if parents/guardians of children educate themselves and release emotionally any beliefs/belief systems, feelings, emotions, desires, expectations, demands etc out of harmony with love from God’s perspective this has a hugely positive impact on the child/ren in their care.

We have experienced that the greatest impact on a child’s learning comes from the emotional injuries (negative impact) or lack of them (positive impact) in the environment a child grows up in. So we believe if we as the parents/guardians, teachers, educators and adults can release emotionally the issues that impact negatively on themselves & others including a child then the child has the opportunity to more easily release the inherited injuries and emotions and be free of them which we hypothesize will have a huge impact on them in all kinds of positive ways.

We are excited about experimenting and documenting this process so that there will be information and studies that people can refer to in the future to show that this is possible, how to actually do it, step by step and where the experiences, ideas, mistakes and various other aspects of the learning that takes place is shared and documented.

We hope you enjoy what is shared here and it provides you at the very least with something to ponder and potentially try out for yourself if you so desire.

If you are interested and experimenting personally with Principle’s of God’s Truth, particularly in the education sector and with children, we encourage you to scientifically document the process including what you do, how you do it and the changes that occur over time. We’d love to hear your experiences, you can contact us through the previously mentioned methods at the top of this post.

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Back Ground to ‘how it all came about’:

In 2014 Jesus & Mary** were visiting Peter and I in Kentucky, NSW. They mentioned that Tristan was very interested in learning & sharing about how God Educates us. They suggested that Tristan might be interested in catching up and discussing ideas with us as we both had similar desires.

So in November 2014 Tristan came to visit us in Kentucky, NSW.

We got SUPER excited, particularly when discussing about discovering how God educates us and how education takes place in the spirit world. We are excited about how we can learn from God personally, share what we learn and potentially replicate how God educates us in all school & education systems on Earth. We would like to set up desire based education centres where Love based education becomes reality.

Over the past few years Pete and I had decided to make some changes in our lives. We want to get to a point that we can share God’s Truth that we have experienced with the world as our full time business. In December 2015 we moved to Tingoora, Queensland, Australia as there are a number of people we desire to collaborate with and learn from in the area.

Jesus spoke to us about an idea he had had about how we all might really jump into our Education desire. It was a really great idea and I am excited to report we are doing it.

Peter and I have some funds from selling the farm which have enabled us to currently donate enough funds and a house to use for Tristan so he can collaborate with us & pursue this passion full time.

Our aim over the next while is to each work through our money injuries so that we can attract enough funds to abundantly cover our passions and desires and enough funds to cover our day to day living expenses. The projects that we are planning on doing involve attracting funds before they can be created.

We have set up a time table were the children remain in state school for their academic learning and go to ‘Tristan’s School’ a couple of days a week to learn about Principle’s of God’s truth. The focus being on Lessons of Love for us (adults) & the children.

We began the first intensive on June the 3rd, 2016 and have continued each week since then. The kids are excited about some aspects and hugely challenged by others – particularly their addictions being challenged. This is a perfect reflection of where we -parents – are at (exactly the same feelings), which is the beauty of the process. Children reflect their environment particularly parents PERFECTLY! God has made a truly awesome process which encourages us to learn to Love, and learn all about Love.

This creates lots of opportunities and we have quite a few reasons for doing this. For example: Each Lesson of Love will become part of the future curriculum for a school we would like to set up. We are all trailing and testing how to implement the Lessons of Love in the best ways possible and learning love lessons ourselves along the way.

It is an opportunity to work on issues between adults and children and document the results of how the emotions of parents affect children, emotionally, physically, spiritually etc. This will aid us in the future to share with other parents the Lessons in Love that we learn and set up a parenting program and education opportunity for adults that will run along side the kids education program. We feel that it is imperative for parents to grow an aspiration to Love if they truly want to change, truly desire to Love children & potentially be involved with the future school.

We are audio recording everything we do presently and will be video recording as much as possible in the coming months, along with written information. We hope to document many things, including how parent’s releasing their personal addictions, demands, expectations and unloving emotions (sin) assist children in a positive manner and creates the quickest behavioural changes & enables unencumbered learning. We have had some experiences with this already and know that positive change is possible, we now need to document it properly.

There are a lot of variables, but we feel if we can keep the long term goals in mind and keep working through the issues and resistances that keep us from doing so,  this is going to be a super awesome venture for all involved!

Gratitude:

To God for creating us, for creating the ultimate education system there is, for the most incredible gifts & designing awesome playgrounds for learning! Among every other super cool thing God does which we have yet to discover. There is just so much to thank God about.

We would like to thank Tristan for his passion and enthusiasm for this project and his desire to collaborate with us in order to begin putting this desire into action.

We would also like to thank Jesus & Mary Magdalene who have given and give us regular time in mentoring us about all kinds of things including this desire.

Finally we would like to Thank our spirit friends for all their help & guidance regarding this project and our lives in general!

You’ll be hearing more from us soon!

Love Eloisa & Peter

* Please take into consideration that God is our true parent and that our earthly parents are our brothers and sisters. If we truly felt this in our hearts we would treat children very differently than we currently do.

** When Jesus & Mary share about the spirit world and how God does things it is so inspiring and so amazing. Some things are so super cool that we stay excited for ages just chatting about them!

Volcano Experiment

We had an exciting morning experimenting with kitchen ingredients to simulate larva in a volcano. It was heaps of fun and the kids really enjoyed it, trying it several more times after the initial eruption.

Below is everything you need to know to conduct the experiment yourself. It is really fun. Suggestion: do it outside on the grass so you have less clean up in the kitchen.

20141217 Volcano experiment: Some of the Ingredients used in the experiment

20141217 Volcano experiment: Some of the Ingredients used in the experiment

You will need:

  • 6 Cups of flour,
  • 2 Cups of salt
  • 4 Tablespoons of cooking oil
  • 2 Tablespoons of baking soda
  • detergent
  • red food colouring (not essential, but makes it fun)
  • vinegar
  • baking pan
  • empty bottle (we used a small one)

Method:

To make the volcano cone:

  • Mix together the flour, salt, oil and water to make a dough for the volcano’s cone (add water as necessary to make a nice dough that sticks together but is not sticky or too dry)

Organising the eruption apparatus:

  • fill the bottle to four-fifths full with warm water, a little detergent and some food colour

Putting it all together:

  • Stand the bottle in the pan and mould the cone around it. Don’t cover the hole.
  • Taking the experiment outside is a good idea at this point
  • Add 2 Table spoons of baking soda, then slowly add vinegar
  • Observe the eruption
20141217 Volcano experiment: Pouring in the vinegar to the water, detergent, baking soda, food colour mix

20141217 Volcano experiment: Pouring in the vinegar to the water, detergent, baking soda, food colour mix

20141217 Volcano experiment: eruption (with added colour)

20141217 Volcano experiment: eruption (with added colour)

20141217 Volcano experiment: conducting the experiment a second time on their own

20141217 Volcano experiment: conducting the experiment a second time on their own

20141217 Volcano experiment: blowing air on the volcano to see what happens next

20141217 Volcano experiment: blowing air on the volcano to see what happens next

20141217 Volcano experiment: near the end of the volcano's short life, watching the last larva pour out before it became play dough. The experiments with baking soda, vinegar and various other ingredients including dam water, sugar, and just plain baking soda and vinegar continued.

20141217 Volcano experiment: near the end of the volcano’s short life, watching the last larva pour out before it got composted. The experiments with baking soda, vinegar and various other ingredients including dam water, sugar, and just plain baking soda and vinegar continued.

Have fun experimenting.